Posts Tagged ‘Twink’

What’s in a (nick) name?


2010
06.23

Twink has been my son’s online persona since I joined the Baby Led Weaning forum when he was coming up to six months old. It was chosen because when he was just a bump, he was known as Twinkle. I felt Twinkle was a bit feminine for a boy, so shortened it. The thing is, he hasn’t been called Twink in real life for…oh…nearly two years I suppose! Squishy on the other hand, really is called Squishy (no…not literally…she has a real name too!), so I sort of feel it’s time to update Twink’s nickname so it reflects him better. The problem is, apart from things like sausage, darling, sweetheart, boy and many, many others, he doesn’t have a nickname any more. Does it matter? Should I make up a new one? I feel like he’s outgrown Twink, but I can’t think of anything else I could call him…any thoughts?! So far my favourite is The Boy…

My Fantastic Son – random thoughts about Twink


2010
05.30

This post is going to be all about my boy. He’s fantastic.

His eyes are just so beautiful. I still get comments from everyone about how unusual his eyes are with the dark ring around the iris.

Who me?

Who me?

The problem is of course when he wants something & turns those puppy dog eyes on me! He’s just recently started telling me off when I’ve told him ‘no’. He points his finger, his voice sounds very strict but with those innocent eyes the effect is just so funny!…I’m assuming he’s learnt that from someone at nursery…I don’t think I’ve ever wagged my finger at him like that!!



Squishy, look at all these animals.

He is so loving with his little sister. To say he adores her is an understatement. I have never seen him show any sort of jealousy towards her, even when he has had to wait his turn for mummy milk (although he does get impatient with me!). He insists on giving her kisses first thing in the morning, and whenever he sees her again after a break (like when I pick him up from nursery). He is just as generous with his kisses and cuddles with me and Hubby, although he doesn’t like it when people he doesn’t know well try to kiss him…it has to be on his terms. So if you get a kiss or a cuddle from him – you know it means something.

One Year Old

One Year Old

I love how much he loves books. I’m a bookaholic myself, so I’m pleased that he loves them too. This is the pile he usually takes to bed with him:

As you can see, sometimes his Colordoodle joins in. He usually cuddles a book to sleep…usually a Doctor Who one, obviously! Tonight he is cuddling one of my birthday cards…a Doctor Who one that screams ‘It is your birthday. You must celebrate or you will be EXTERMINATED. EXTERMINATE! EXTERMINATE!!’. Wherever we go, as long as they have books he will be happy to sit and flick through them…giving them back before we leave can sometimes be challenging though!

He makes me laugh every day.

He does things his own way, and I hope he always will.

He snores like a trooper!

He has an unerring ability to spot biscuits from a mile off, but always asks me before taking one…and then shouts if I don’t allow him a second…or a third ;-) He also likes proper, grown up, dark chocolate…although he’s partial to the odd milk chocolate button too.

He was a cosleeping, (now tandem) breastfeeding, baby led weaning, (still) sling riding, (still) cloth nappy wearing happy little boy.

He is TWO already.

He has changed my life completely, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.  He has shown us the way right from the start – we coslept from 3 days old because otherwise no one slept. People told us we’d never get him out without leaving him to cry, but he moved into his own bed, in his own room, in his own time…and started sleeping through at about 11 months. Obviously he stopped shortly afterwards (blasted teeth!), but now he sleeps through more often than not, and as of Tuesday night, he falls asleep without anyone in his bedroom. I’m so proud of him!

My baby boy is growing up.

The Pre-Verbal Child


2010
05.17

Twink is two, and he doesn’t talk  yet.

Hello

There, I’ve said it. I’m not overly worried as I know a few children who started talking even later, and he does have the odd word (although they’re generally pronounced differently every time). These are the words I’ve heard him say:

  • hello
  • bye
  • mummy
  • daddy
  • Ishy (= his sister)
  • yeh
  • no
  • fra (= car)
  • woo (= Doctor Who)
  • oof oof (= woof woof = dog)
  • moow (= more or mummy milk…not sure why it’s for both)
  • mahmy (= marmite)
  • boo (= book)
  • aw duh (= all done)
  • dah or didah (= water)

They aren’t always clear, and he doesn’t always use them. For example, tonight at bedtime he was moaning for ages with me guessing repeatedly what he might want. He finally said ‘boo’ and I realised he wanted his book to cuddle. It would have saved so much time if he just said ‘boo’ to start with!

He jabbers and babbles away all day long, and sometimes is extremely insistent about what he is saying, but no matter how much I try, I can’t turn most of it into an English word. We’ve been joking for ages that he is probably creating a whole new language instead of learning English…

I understand him most of the time, but more and more there are moments in the day when we both get frustrated with playing twenty questions (do you want x, do you want y, do you want z…). He tries so hard to tell me things sometimes, and I can see it really frustrates him that he knows what he wants but can’t communicate it to me. It must be really isolating to be a pre-verbal child, particularly when you understand most of what you hear. To be trapped in your own head in that way must be quite lonely.

Moody Twink

I try to find other ways to communicate with him – communication isn’t just about words. So we’re very tactile with each other and I try to encourage him to use visual clues to tell me what he wants or is thinking and feeling. Sometimes that’s sign language (which he’s started using again more frequently so I’m trying to learn a few more), sometimes it’s a hug while we work out what he is trying to say, and sometimes it’s as simple as getting him to show me what he wants (so he can go to the fridge and grab the milk if he wants some milk!).

It’s basically quite frustrating for all of us, and I think most of his tantrums are caused by not being able to communicate. So imagine how I felt when I picked him up from nursery and found out he’d been ‘chatting all day’ and he is ‘getting really clear now’….grrrr….when is he going to share that with me??!!

Present Thoughts


2010
05.05

We haven’t been having a particularly fun week. Twink has been working on getting his whining to the perfect pitch to make Mummy’s head explode, and Squishy is having her 12 week growth spurt. Fun and games! This has led to me having a bit of birthday blindness. We have 2 birthday parties this weekend, 3 birthdays and only 1 present.

Twink's first birthday

The first party is on Friday and is for a 2 year old boy who I have seen maybe 3 times in the last year. What is the protocol here? I’d feel rude turning up to a party with nothing, but equally wouldn’t expect everyone to bring someone just because I’d invited them to a party. I’m thinking I’ll use some blank t-shirts I have and try some freezer paper stencilling. I’ve never done it before, but how hard can it be?!

Twink's Birthday Card

Saturday is looking like it’ll be a difficult day. We have a 2 year old’s (we’ll call him J) party to go to at 2pm, but it is also Twink’s second birthday and we’d like to do something as a family. But we don’t know what! So whatever we do, it’ll be a busy sort of day. Twink’s party is the following week as he’ll be sharing the party with me because my (sh….30th) birthday is the week after and May is already so full of parties we didn’t feel we needed one each.

Twink & his cake

J is the lucky one – I already have a present for him as Twink was given an outfit by the MIL at Christmas which I’d never put him in, so I’m recycling it for J who it’ll suit perfectly! Just for completeness, if you remember my best mate (of baby-catching fame), her sister is J’s mum. So J is part of our extended adopted family.

Mmmm...cake!

As for my own son…still no present! I’m planning to get him a balance bike, but somehow we haven’t ordered it yet, so I think I’ll pick up some arty stuff just so that he’s got something to unwrap on the day. Wrapping paper, a box of some kind, some bubbles and a balloon will be enough to make him happy. Would it be wrong to get him to make his own birthday card?! He loves an excuse to get the paints out!

Sigh…I just don’t seem to be able to get in the birthday mood, which is highly irritating as May is full of birthdays and celebrations. Somehow a second birthday doesn’t seem as exciting as a first birthday, but he’s still not as aware of what a birthday is as he will be next year. It’s stuck in between, and as I’m still in the new baby, sleep deprived haze, I can’t get into it.

Oh well…on to the next present I need to find…

It’s my wedding anniversary next Wednesday! We’ll have been married 3 whole years, which apparently means we have to buy some leather…seems a bit kinky to me, but who am I to argue with wikipedia? I have no idea what to get though – we have leather sofas, DH has a leather strap on his watch and already has nice leather shoes…maybe it’d be enough if we go to a restaurant and eat steak…it’s the same animal after all!

Twink's birthday presents!

After all that brainstorming, all I’ve decided is that I need to freezer stencil a t-shirt tomorrow…but what design to use?!

Hope you liked the photos from Twink’s first birthday. Seems so long ago…and how young does Twink look?!!


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